What to Do If You Receive a Draft Court Order You Don’t Agree With
It’s not unusual during divorce for one party’s lawyer to send over a draft order before it has been filed or signed by a judge. Sometimes those drafts include terms that don’t quite match what was said in court—or that feel unfair. A common question we hear is: “What do I do if I disagree with parts of a draft order that’s been sent to me?”
First Things First: A Draft Is Not Final
If you’ve been sent an order to review, remember: it’s not legally binding until a judge signs it. A lawyer can draft language, but that doesn’t make it the law. You have the right to review, disagree, and respond.
How to Respond
If you’re representing yourself, here are some steps to consider:
Read carefully. Go through the draft line by line and mark what you agree with and what you do not.
Respond in writing. Send back a clear, professional response outlining what you agree with and where your disagreements are.
Document everything. Save copies of emails, drafts, and notes for your records.
Stay within deadlines. If you’re asked to respond within a certain number of days, make sure to meet that deadline.
Protecting Your Interests
If the draft order includes terms you believe are inaccurate or unfair—especially related to finances—you may need to file a written objection or your own proposed order with the court. Some people in this position file a counter-motion or affidavit to ensure their perspective is included. The exact form can vary depending on your state’s court system, so it’s best to check with your local court clerk or seek legal advice.
The Challenge of Going Pro Se
Representing yourself in court (“pro se”) can feel overwhelming, especially if the other side has an attorney. While you may not be able to hire a lawyer right away, you might be able to seek out limited-scope representation (sometimes called “unbundled legal services”), where an attorney helps you draft or review documents without taking on your whole case.
A Gentle Reminder
You are not wrong for feeling overwhelmed. Divorce paperwork can be dense, confusing, and full of legal language that doesn’t always match what was said in the courtroom. Remember: until a judge signs it, nothing is final. You are allowed to disagree, clarify, and protect your financial well-being.
At Fresh Starts, we have divorce attorneys, mediators, and financial experts in our Expert Guide who can support you—whether you need someone to look over a draft order, explain your options, or guide you through the next steps.
And if you’re at the beginning of this process, download our free ebook, What to Consider When You’re Considering Divorce. It’s full of scripts, checklists, and practical guidance to help you feel more confident when navigating paperwork, hearings, and unexpected challenges.
Your fresh start may be tangled up in legal documents right now, but step by step, you’ll get clarity and support.