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No, your ex cannot simply decide to take full custody without going through the proper legal process. Custody decisions are made either through mutual agreement or by a court order based on the best interests of the child—not just one parent's wishes.

How Child Custody is Determined:

Best Interests of the Child:
Courts prioritize the child's well-being, stability, and emotional needs. Key factors include:
- Each parent's ability to provide a safe and stable environment.
- The child’s relationship with each parent.
- The child's age, health, and emotional needs.
- Parenting skills and involvement in daily life (school, healthcare, extracurricular activities).
- History of abuse, neglect, or substance issues (if applicable).
Current Custody Arrangements:
If there is an existing temporary custody order or informal agreement, the court will consider the child's current living situation.
Willingness to Cooperate:
Courts favor parents who demonstrate a willingness to support the child's relationship with the other parent.

What Happens if Your Ex Wants Full Custody?

Filing a Petition:
If your ex wants full custody, they must file a custody petition with the family court.
Court Hearing:
Both parties will present evidence and arguments. The judge evaluates:
- Living conditions
- Financial stability
- Emotional and physical care provided to the child
- Any allegations of abuse or neglect
Temporary Orders (if necessary):
Sometimes, a judge may issue a temporary custody order during the divorce or separation process until a final decision is made.
Mediation or Negotiation:
Some states require mediation to try to reach an agreement before going to court.

Can They Just Take the Child?

No, they cannot legally take the child away without a court order.
If your ex attempts to do so, it could be considered parental kidnapping if done without consent and outside legal boundaries.
If you fear this might happen, you can file for an emergency custody order to protect your rights and your child’s stability.

What Should You Do Next?

Document Everything:
Keep records of conversations, texts, and emails where custody threats are made.
Know Your Rights:
Even if your ex files for full custody, you still have the right to be heard in court.
Consult an Attorney:
A family lawyer can help you understand your rights and build a strong case.
Prepare Evidence:
Be ready to show your involvement in your child’s life: school records, medical appointments, and daily care.

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