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Jenny Says So: Weddings After Divorce
A newly divorced reader writes in anxious about attending a wedding where her ex will also be a guest — unsure about dating logistics, seating, whether to alert the couple, and how to act if she crosses paths with her ex, all while trying not to make the couple's day about her situation.
Jenny Says So: The Group Chat After the Breakup
A reader still sharing a long-standing friend group chat with her ex asks how to protect her peace without abandoning her community or forcing friends to pick sides. Jenny reassures her that boundaries aren't drama and offers three graceful options — quietly muting, starting a parallel thread, or asking a trusted friend to help set up a clean separation.
Jenny Says So: The New Partner at Kid Events
A parent asks how to handle the ex's new partner suddenly appearing at school concerts, soccer games, and kid birthday parties — under the watchful eyes of other parents — without looking bitter or pretending to be a happy blended family. Jenny's rule is "neutral grace": be civil, brief, and kid-centered with a simple script and an exit strategy, then let yourself feel it all afterward.
Jenny Says So: The Post-Divorce Set-Up Parade
What do you do when everyone wants to set you up — but you're still figuring out who you are post-divorce? In this column, Jenny tackles the pressure to date before you're ready, why your timeline isn't anyone else's business, and the exact scripts to shut it down with grace. Kindness doesn't require compliance.
Jenny Says So: I’m not okay, but I’m also not up for sharing
Divorce makes you a subject. Suddenly everyone wanted the story — neighbors, relatives, the well-meaning acquaintance sliding into your DMs. And every time someone asks, it's like being pulled back into the worst chapter and forced to summarize it in 30 seconds.
You're not obligated to satisfy curiosity in order to be "nice." Polite doesn't mean porous. You don't owe a recap of your pain to earn your place in the room.
Jenny Says So: The Group Hang After the Breakup
Shared friend group post-divorce? You’re allowed to ask for a softer landing. It’s not rude to request some events without your ex—or at least a heads-up for smaller gatherings. Lead with clarity + generosity: you’re not demanding, you’re helping friends host thoughtfully. If they can’t accommodate, opt out guilt-free—with love and manners.
Jenny Says So: The Divorce Announcement Dilemma
You’re not obligated to make a public “divorce announcement” — you can share quietly, selectively, and in whatever format feels safest. Jenny offers a simple boundary-first approach that reduces emotional labor and keeps you from over-explaining. Using the VASE Method (Validate, Acknowledge, Support, Express), you can tell the truth with warmth, clarity, and a built-in “no details” line that protects your peace.
How to Write a Divorce Announcement and Helpful Phrases to Use
How to Write a Divorce Announcement and Helpful Phrases to Use; how to write a divorce announcement for social media; how to tell your family and friends about your divorce; helpful phrases to announce your divorce.
How to tell the parents of your child’s friends that you’re getting divorced (and why you need to tell them)
How to tell your child’s friends’ parents you’re getting divorced (and why you need to tell them); why you need to tell your child’s friends’ parents that you’re getting divorced, how to tell your child’s friends’ parents you’re getting divorced, with a sample text.
How to tell your doctor that you’re getting divorced (and why you need to tell them)
How to tell your doctor that you’re getting divorced (and why you need to tell them); why you need to tell your doctor you’re getting divorced, how to tell your doctor you’re getting divorced, with a sample email and text.
How to tell your child’s pediatrician you’re getting divorced (and why you need to tell them)
How to tell your child’s pediatrician you’re getting divorced (and why you need to tell them); why you need to tell your child’s pediatrician you’re getting divorced, how to tell your child’s pediatrician you’re getting divorced, with a sample conversation starter.
How to tell your boss that you’re getting divorced (and why you need to tell them)
How to tell your boss that you’re getting divorced (and why you need to tell them); why you need to tell your boss you’re getting divorced, how to tell your boss you’re getting divorced, with a sample email and text.
How to tell your child’s teacher you’re getting divorced (and why you need to tell them)
How to tell your child’s teacher you’re getting divorced (and why you need to tell them); why you need to tell your child’s teacher you’re getting divorced, how to tell your child’s teacher you’re getting divorced, with a sample email and text.
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3 Reasons to Write a Divorce Announcement
A divorce announcement is a statement made by a person to share their decision to transition to divorce with their loved ones and wider community. While divorce can be a challenging and emotional journey, announcing it can be a powerful act of self-empowerment. Here are 3 reasons to write a divorce announcement.
What Is a Divorce Announcement?
A divorce announcement is a formal or informal statement made by people to inform their friends, family, and acquaintances about their decision to transition to divorce. By proactively sharing their decision with others, individuals can take control of the conversation surrounding their divorce and prevent rumors or misinformation from spreading.