Review: Unfuck Your Parenting by Bonnie Scott & Faith G. Harper
I'm just going to say it: the title is perfect. Because sometimes that's exactly what parenting feels like — something that needs unfucking. Urgently.
Unfuck Your Parenting is the book for those of us who are raising kids in a world that looks nothing like the one we grew up in, trying to instill values we had to learn the hard way ourselves, while also — and this part is important — not completely losing ourselves in the process.
Bonnie Scott and Dr. Faith G. Harper are parents and therapists, which means they're writing from two of the most useful vantage points imaginable. They're not handing you an idealized vision of what parenting should look like. They're meeting you in the chaos of what it actually is.
What I love most is the scope. This isn't a book just for parents of toddlers or just for parents of teens. It's for all of it — infancy through adulthood — because the truth is, the work doesn't stop. The conversations about consent, about money, about identity, about how to stand up when the world feels heavy — those are ongoing. And you need to be having them whether your kid is five or twenty-five.
For single parents, for divorced parents, for anyone raising kids while also actively rebuilding their own life? This book sees you. There's real attention paid to maintaining your own identity and relationships while parenting — which is something we don't talk about nearly enough.
Raise good humans. Stay a whole person while you do it. This book helps with both.
Five stars. Keeping this one on the nightstand.
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