I'm just going to say it: the title is perfect. Because sometimes that's exactly what parenting feels like — something that needs unfucking. Urgently. Bonnie Scott and Dr. Faith G. Harper are parents and therapists, writing from two of the most useful vantage points imaginable. They're not handing you an idealized vision of what parenting should look like. They're meeting you in the chaos of what it actually is. Raise good humans. Stay a whole person while you do it. This book helps with both.