Letter from the Editor: The Cruelest Month (That Isn't)

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April has a reputation.

T.S. Eliot called it the cruelest month — and honestly, if you're navigating divorce, you might be inclined to agree. Tax season forces you to look at numbers you've been avoiding. The weather can't make up its mind. Everyone around you seems to be snapping out of winter and into something bright and social, and you're just... not there yet.

But here's what I've come to think about April: it isn't cruel. It's just honest.

April doesn't let you coast. It doesn't have January's permission slip or February's built-in excuse or March's romantic narrative about renewal. April just shows up and asks you to deal with what's actually in front of you. The finances. The paperwork. The life you're building even when you're not sure what it's supposed to look like.

That's uncomfortable. It's also, quietly, useful.

There's something clarifying about a month that doesn't promise transformation. April doesn't ask you to be new. It asks you to be present — with your numbers, your plans, your actual circumstances. And if you're going through divorce, that kind of grounded honesty is exactly what the process requires.

This issue is full of the practical things that carry the most emotional weight. The financial questions you've been putting off. The terms you didn't fully understand until now. The support systems that exist for exactly this stretch of the road.

April isn't cruel. It's just clear. And clarity — even when it's hard to sit with — is one of the most useful things you can have right now.

With love and a little tough honesty,

Genevieve “Jenny” Dreizen, Editor in Chief