How to Prepare for a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) in a Custody Case
A question we hear often is: “My lawyer recommended hiring a GAL because our case involves domestic violence. How do I prepare? How should I organize my evidence? I’m scared and overwhelmed.”
If you’re reading this with your heart pounding—please take a deep breath. You are not alone. The process of involving a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) can feel intimidating, especially in the middle of an emotional, high-stakes custody case. But understanding what a GAL does—and how to prepare—can help you feel more grounded and confident.
What Is a Guardian ad Litem (GAL)?
A Guardian ad Litem (GAL) is a neutral professional—usually an attorney or licensed social worker—appointed by the court to represent your child’s best interests in a custody case.
They do not represent you or your co-parent. Their role is to gather information, talk to everyone involved, and make recommendations to the court about what arrangement would be safest and healthiest for your child.
A GAL may:
Interview both parents and the child (sometimes multiple times)
Speak with teachers, doctors, therapists, or relatives
Visit each parent’s home
Review evidence, court filings, and police or medical reports
Write a report summarizing their findings and custody recommendations
While the GAL’s recommendations aren’t the final word, judges often give them significant weight—especially in cases involving domestic violence, abuse, or high conflict.
How to Prepare for a GAL
When a GAL is involved, your goal is to present yourself as organized, truthful, and focused on your child’s well-being—not on attacking your co-parent.
Here’s how to prepare:
1. Stay Centered on Your Child’s Needs
The GAL’s main question is always: What’s best for the child? Keep your focus on safety, stability, and your child’s emotional health.
2. Be Honest and Calm
You do not need to be perfect—you just need to be truthful. GALs can usually tell when someone is exaggerating or defensive. It’s okay to say, “This situation has been hard, but I’m focused on giving my child stability.”
3. Organize Your Evidence Clearly
Create a simple, factual packet or folder that includes:
Court orders (custody, protective, or restraining orders)
Police or incident reports
Texts, emails, or voicemails that are relevant (keep them organized by date)
Documentation from teachers, doctors, or therapists about your child’s well-being
A brief written timeline of major events (keep it concise and factual)
Avoid emotional commentary—let the facts speak for themselves.
4. Be Respectful of the Process
Even if it feels unfair, remember that GALs are required to meet with both parents. Don’t criticize or badmouth your ex; focus on your child’s needs and what you’re doing to support them.
5. If Domestic Violence Is Involved, Be Clear About Safety
If there’s a history of abuse or control, the GAL needs to understand the full context. You can say, “There have been incidents of domestic violence, and my priority is to keep our child safe and emotionally stable.”
If possible, work with your lawyer or advocate to make sure the GAL has access to all relevant evidence of abuse.
What If You Feel Unsafe or Overwhelmed
Having to share custody or communicate with someone who has harmed you can feel unbearable. It’s okay to feel scared. You do not have to do this alone.
Lean on your attorney or advocate. They can guide you on what to share with the GAL.
Document everything. Keep copies of all communications and notes about interactions with your co-parent.
Get emotional support. Working with a therapist who understands domestic violence can help you manage anxiety and trauma triggers.
FAQs About GALs and Custody Cases
Is the GAL on my side? Not exactly. The GAL represents your child’s best interests—not either parent. But if you’re honest, consistent, and child-focused, your credibility will shine through.
What if my ex lies to the GAL? Stay calm and stick to facts. Provide documents that support your statements. GALs are trained to spot inconsistencies and manipulation.
Can I see the GAL’s report? In most cases, yes. Your attorney can request a copy once it’s filed with the court.
What if I can’t afford to hire a GAL? In some states, the court may appoint one and assign costs based on income—or legal aid may help. Ask your attorney or court clerk for guidance.
What if I disagree with the GAL’s recommendation? You can present additional evidence, witness statements, or testimony to the judge. The GAL’s report is influential but not final.
A Gentle Reminder
You’re navigating an incredibly complex and emotional situation—but taking steps to prepare for your GAL meeting shows strength, not fear. You are doing what loving, protective parents do: showing up, organizing the truth, and focusing on your child’s safety.
At Fresh Starts, we have attorneys, domestic violence advocates, and custody experts in our Expert Guide who can help you prepare for a GAL, organize your evidence, and protect your peace.
If you’re in the early stages of divorce or custody disputes, download our free ebook, What to Consider When You’re Considering Divorce. It includes compassionate guidance, scripts, and checklists for navigating complex legal and emotional situations like this.
You don’t have to be perfect—you just have to keep showing up for your child. That’s what matters most.