What People Are Actually Looking For From Divorce Professionals Right Now
You already know this in your bones: People going through divorce are not just looking for “support.” They’re looking for very specific kinds of support, delivered in very specific ways.
At our recent Divorce Support Town Hall, we asked attendees what they’re struggling with, what they wish existed, and what feels missing in the divorce world.
Their answers weren’t vague. They told us exactly what they want.
This post is a synthesis of those real-time insights, translated into offer ideas and formats you can adapt in your own practice. Think of it as a listening report: “Here’s what they’re asking for. Here’s how you can meet them there.”
1. They Want Structure, Not Just Information
What we heard:
“Divorce is like a second job.”
“I don’t know what I don’t know.”
“I get overwhelmed when I get a lot of contacts all at once.”
People aren’t craving more PDFs, podcasts, or expert names. They’re craving containers that help them actually move things forward.
Offer ideas that match that need
Divorce Admin Power Hour (or Body-Doubling Session)
A simple, repeatable format:
60–90 minutes on Zoom
You host a calm, focused space
Everyone shows up with:
Forms to fill out
Emails to reply to
Documents to gather
You open with a quick grounding, set a timer, and everyone quietly works together
End with a short Q&A or check-in or be available on chat during the hour for on demand questions.
This matches what people explicitly said they need:
“I love body doubling.”
“Breaking it down step-by-step would be so helpful.”
You’re giving them something their nervous system can actually handle: not “Go do 15 giant things,” but “Let’s sit together for one hour and do one or two things.”
2. They Want To Know: “What Comes First?”
What we heard:
“I feel like I have to pay everyone.”
“I don’t know where to focus.”
“It seems like I need a coach, therapist, lawyer, CDFA, realtor… all at once.”
People are overwhelmed by sequencing. They don’t know what order to do things in.
Offer ideas that match that need
“Before You Do Anything Else” Session or Workshop
You could create:
A 60–90 minute 1:1 session where you:
Map out their next 3–5 steps
Help them prioritize who to talk to and when
Identify what paperwork or decisions truly come first
or
A short workshop: “The First 5 Steps in Your Divorce Journey (Without Burning Yourself Out)”
If you’re a coach, CDFA, lawyer, or mediator, this is powerful: you become the person who says,
“Here’s the order. Here’s the focus. Here’s what can wait.”
That alone is a massive relief.
3. They Want Drop-In Connection, Not Just Long-Term Programs
What we heard:
“It’s lonely and overwhelming when you just want someone to hold your hand and not want something from you.”
“It would be so helpful if there was a place to just be with others and ask questions.”
“Support groups and body doubling sound amazing.”
People want ways to plug into support without needing to commit to six months of anything.
Offer ideas that match that need
Monthly “Ask Me Anything” or Office Hours
60 minutes on Zoom
Group Q&A
People can attend once or come regularly
You answer questions in your lane (with clear boundaries: no individualized legal advice, etc.)
Supportive Working / Co-Regulation Spaces
Monthly or bi-monthly body-doubling or “divorce work session”
Optional: invite another Fresh Starts expert to join and be available for light questions
You’re the calm, steady presence in the room
This gives people what they explicitly asked for: contact, companionship, accountability, and a place to exhale.
4. They Want Stage-of-Life Specific Support
What we heard:
“Divorce at an older age.”
“Going through both divorce and empty nesting.”
“Divorce and career transition.”
“I left the marital home with a young child and no support nearby.”
There was a clear hunger for nuanced, context-specific support, not just generic “divorce tips.”
Offer ideas that match that need
Micro-Groups Based on Life Stage or Theme
Think about small, time-bound groups like:
“Divorce at Midlife and Beyond”
“Divorce + Empty Nest: Who Am I Now?”
“Leaving the Marital Home (With or Without Kids)”
“Divorce While Working Full-Time: Surviving the Second Job”
Structure can be simple:
4–6 weekly calls
6–8 people
Each week has one theme + open discussion
You become the person who says,
“This room is specifically for you and this exact chapter of life.”
That specificity is what people are craving.
5. They Want Clear Expectations of Professionals
What we heard:
“Guidance on what is vs isn’t expected from professionals, specifically lawyers.”
“What does a coach actually do?”
“How do I know if I’ve hired the right person?”
There’s a lot of confusion—and fear—around hiring the wrong professional.
Offer ideas that match that need
“How to Work With Me” Guides and Workshops
You can create:
A simple one-page “What to Expect When You Work With Me” handout or web page
A live or recorded mini-class:
“What Your Lawyer Can and Can’t Do For You”
“What a CDFA Actually Does (and How to Know If You Need One)”
“What a Divorce Coach Is (and Is Not)”
You’re not just selling your services; you’re demystifying the whole category. This builds trust—and trust is what ultimately leads to deeper engagements.
6. They Want Help With the Logistics of Home and Work
What we heard:
“We decided to sell the family home before navigating the divorce part.”
“I need a real estate coach.”
“Navigating divorce while working full-time—coworkers, friendships, the admin.”
People are not just dealing with feelings. They’re dealing with mortgages, leases, commutes, HR, job performance, job searches.
Offer ideas that match that need
If you’re a realtor, mortgage specialist, CDFA, coach, or career expert, you might consider:
Home-Focused Sessions or Workshops
“What To Do With the House: Options Before, During, and After Divorce”
“Should I Stay or Should I Go? Questions to Ask Before You Leave the Marital Home”
Work-Focused Sessions or Workshops
“Divorce While Working Full-Time: Protecting Your Energy and Your Job”
“How to Talk to Your Manager and HR About Your Divorce (Without Oversharing)”
These are the real-world problems people are trying to solve at 2am.
You can be the person who says, “Let’s walk through this together.”
7. They Want You to Be a Human First
What we heard (and saw):
Gratitude for the grounding reading
Appreciation for you naming that this isn’t a sales pitch
Relief when you said, “You are never bothering me”
Joy and emotion around being held in community
Yes, people care about your credentials.
But what they remember is how they felt with you.
Ways to embody that in your business
Be transparent about what working with you looks like
Name fears out loud (“You might be worried about wasting time or money in the wrong place…”)
Build in gentle check-ins rather than disappearing after a consult
Create at least one offering that is more about being with them than “fixing” them
The themes we heard over and over again weren’t:
“I need the fanciest expert.”
They were:
“I need someone steady who can walk with me at my pace.”
“I need someone to help me prioritize.”
“I need people who understand without me over-explaining.”
Bringing It All Together
None of this asks you to become someone you’re not, or to overhaul your business overnight.
Instead, it asks:
What are my people clearly asking for?
Which of these needs fit naturally with my skills and energy?
How can I shape or tweak an offer so it mirrors what they’re actually craving right now?
Maybe that looks like:
Adding a monthly admin power hour
Piloting a micro-group for “divorce at midlife”
Creating a simple script kit as a companion to your work
Hosting office hours instead of answering endless emails for free
Whatever you choose, let it be guided by what they’re already telling us:
“I want structure.”
“I want clarity.”
“I want to feel less alone.”
“I want someone to walk with me through this, step by step.”
If you’d like support shaping one of these ideas into a concrete offer—title, description, structure, and pricing—you can absolutely lean on us. We’re here to help you build services that feel good for your clients and for you.