3 Things I Learned from My Divorce with Writer Heather Sweeney
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When Heather Sweeney left her marriage, she wasn’t just walking away from a relationship—she was reclaiming an identity that had been lost in the shadows of military life. In this powerful and honest episode, Heather joins Olivia Howell to share the story behind her memoir Camouflage, diving into the fear, uncertainty, and ultimate freedom that came with her divorce journey. From feeling stuck and scared as a stay-at-home mom, to rebuilding her life on her own terms, Heather’s story is one of resilience, clarity, and becoming whole again.
Together, Heather and Olivia unpack what it means to start over when you don’t even remember who you are anymore. They talk about the emotional toll of comparing divorces, the importance of self-trust and therapy, and why walking away from what’s safe can sometimes be the bravest decision of all. Heather’s experience navigating military divorce adds an important layer to the conversation, reminding listeners that every divorce is deeply personal and uniquely complex.
Whether you’re currently in a relationship that’s no longer serving you, navigating a divorce of your own, or finding your footing on the other side, this conversation will leave you feeling less alone—and a little more hopeful. Heather’s wisdom is generous and grounding, and her message is clear: you are allowed to thrive after divorce. You are allowed to be whole.
When you’re divorcing and staring at your bank app, it can feel like the floor is dropping out from under you. You’re not lazy, you’re not behind—you’re in survival mode, trying to keep everyone fed and the legal plates spinning.
I Said I Was Getting A Divorce: How to Avoid What Happened Next by Erin Snow of Seacoast Listening Lounge
Shared friend group post-divorce? You’re allowed to ask for a softer landing. It’s not rude to request some events without your ex—or at least a heads-up for smaller gatherings. Lead with clarity + generosity: you’re not demanding, you’re helping friends host thoughtfully. If they can’t accommodate, opt out guilt-free—with love and manners.
March has a way of waking us up—windows open, closets emptied, life quietly asking: what are we carrying forward? That’s why this month, in our Divorce 101 A to Z series, M is for Marital Assets. Marital assets are the things built during the marriage—sometimes obvious (the house, savings, retirement), sometimes surprising (stock options, points, miles)—and understanding them matters because you can’t protect or divide what you don’t even realize exists. This isn’t about being combative; it’s about getting clear, gathering what’s real, and making intentional choices as you step into what’s next.
In an insightful conversation, Melissa Pavone, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, explains how her expertise aids individuals navigating divorce. She highlights the importance of financial clarity and strategic decision-making, emphasizing long-term outcomes to empower clients. Collaborating with legal professionals, she facilitates informed decisions and reduces stress throughout the process.
In an insightful interview, Lorraine Connell, a Teen Confidence Coach, emphasizes rebuilding self-assurance during divorce. She outlines five impactful strategies, urging parents to involve their children, confront emotions, communicate with schools, protect eldest siblings from added pressure, and model resilience, showcasing a fresh start through growth and connection.
In a heartfelt discussion, Lisa Lisser, a Divorce and Coparenting Coach, shares her journey of transforming pain into purpose. She emphasizes the importance of emotional resilience, offering practical strategies for navigating divorce and co-parenting, helping clients reimagine their futures with hope and clarity.
In an insightful interview, Kelli Sedwick-Drummond, a Divorce Coach and Personal Growth Expert, shares her journey through divorce, emphasizing resilience, empowerment, and the importance of support. She encourages others to view divorce as a fresh start, transforming personal challenges into growth opportunities.
March Letter from the Editor
March is movement—quiet, real, and at your pace. Jenny reflects on Olivia’s steady courage through divorce: the tiny decisions, the kitchen-table math, the “next true step.” This issue offers a flashlight, not a push—clarity, language, and gentle momentum.
Photo by Terrie Alfieri
How to Energetically Clear Your Home After Divorce by Jo-Anne Suriel of the Energetic Well
Growth and Healing During Divorce: Learning From the Past Without Living There by Jill Kaufman founder of Divorce Coach Jill
What if you receive a draft divorce order you don’t fully agree with? Remember: it isn’t final until a judge signs it. Learn how to review, respond, and protect your financial concerns—especially if you’re representing yourself. Fresh Starts has vetted divorce attorneys and financial experts who can help. Download our free ebook What to Consider When You’re Considering Divorce.
Being served with divorce papers can feel overwhelming and leave you wondering what to do next. In this Divorce Happens: Survival Scenarios guide, divorce mediator and attorney Mardi Chadwick-Balcom shares expert advice on the first 24 hours after being served, which documents to gather, and how to respond with intention. Get clear, compassionate guidance to navigate this stressful moment with confidence.
Divorce can dramatically impact your retirement savings, especially IRAs and 401(k)s. Learn the essentials of dividing these assets through Transfer Incidents and QDROs, understand tax implications, and avoid common pitfalls. This comprehensive guide explains everything you need to know to protect your financial future during divorce and ensure long-term stability.
Discover the 10 essential questions to ask when choosing a therapist during divorce. From co-parenting support and managing high-conflict divorces to understanding therapeutic methods and financial stress, ensure your therapist is equipped to guide you through this transformative life event.
Considering a DIY divorce? Before you file on your own, learn the key factors you need to weigh, from legal risks to emotional impact. A do-it-yourself divorce can save money, but it’s not always the right fit. Discover what to consider to protect your future and make confident, informed decisions.