What to Do When Your Ex’s New Partner Posts Photos of Your Kids on Social Media (even after you asked them not to!)
A common question we hear in our community is: “What if my co-parent’s new partner starts posting pictures of my children on social media—even after I’ve asked them not to?”
For many parents, this can feel deeply unsettling. It’s not just about the pictures—it’s about boundaries, respect, and protecting your kids’ privacy in a digital world where nothing ever truly disappears.
Recommendations vs. Legal Orders
In some cases, a parenting evaluator or mediator may suggest that no third parties (like new partners) should post photos of the children online. But until a judge signs off, those recommendations aren’t legally enforceable. That doesn’t mean they’re meaningless—judges often pay attention to whether parents and partners follow recommendations in good faith, because it shows respect for the co-parenting relationship and the children’s best interests.
Why This Hurts
When you’ve expressed a clear boundary and it isn’t respected, it feels violating. Seeing your kids online, especially in sensitive contexts, can feel like your role as a parent is being ignored. You are not overreacting. Your concern is grounded in care, love, and protection for your children.
What You Can Do Now
Document what happens. Screenshots and dates matter.
Stay calm and brief in communication. You don’t need to rehash your position endlessly.
Bring it up in court. Judges increasingly recognize children’s digital privacy as a valid concern.
Care for yourself. Having boundaries ignored is painful—lean on your support system for validation and perspective.
A Gentle Reminder
This isn’t about pettiness—it’s about dignity, respect, and your children’s safety. Even if recommendations aren’t enforceable yet, your boundaries matter, and raising these issues in the proper legal channels shows you are prioritizing your kids’ well-being.
If you’re navigating co-parenting challenges, our free ebook, What to Consider When You’re Considering Divorce, is here to support you. It includes scripts, checklists, and compassionate guidance for tricky situations—so you can feel prepared, validated, and steady.
Your fresh start includes not only rebuilding your life, but also holding clear, respected boundaries for your children.