What to Do If Your Ex Isn’t Paying Temporary Spousal Support

A reader recently asked us: “My ex hasn’t paid the full amount of temporary spousal support for three months. What can I do to get the money and hold them accountable?”

First of all, if this is happening to you—please know you’re not alone. Many people struggle with unpaid support during divorce, and it’s not just frustrating, it’s destabilizing. You’re depending on that money to live, and when it doesn’t show up, it’s more than a financial problem—it’s emotional, too.

Temporary Support Is a Court Order

When a judge issues a temporary spousal support order, it’s not optional. It carries the same legal weight as any other court order. Failing to pay is a violation of that order, and courts usually take that very seriously.

Your Options for Accountability

If your ex has stopped paying—or is paying only part—you have the right to go back to court. Depending on your state, this might look like filing a motion for enforcement or contempt. If the judge finds your ex in contempt, they can order payment of the arrears (the back support owed) and may impose fines, wage garnishment, or other consequences.

It’s also helpful to keep meticulous records. Document every payment you did or did not receive, and save bank statements, checks, or receipts. Having this paper trail makes it much easier to show the court exactly what has (and hasn’t) been paid.

A Gentle Reminder

It may feel scary to go back to court, especially if you’re already emotionally drained by the divorce process. But remember: asking the court to enforce support isn’t being “difficult”—it’s ensuring the stability and safety you’re legally entitled to. Support orders exist for a reason, and you deserve consistency and accountability.

If you’re navigating situations like this—or wondering what you should prepare for before filing—our free ebook, What to Consider When You’re Considering Divorce, is here to guide you. With checklists, scripts, and compassionate advice, it helps you feel more prepared for the unexpected twists and turns of divorce.

Your fresh start is built not just on paperwork and court orders, but on knowing you’re worthy of support—financially and emotionally.