5 Fresh Tips to Help Find Your Voice After Divorce with Writer and Director Dara Resnik
Figuring out how to find your voice after divorce can feel overwhelming. Many people lose a sense of identity during a marriage, especially in relationships marked by control, neglect, or emotional abuse. The good news? You are not alone, and you can rediscover your voice, your story, and your confidence.
Writer and director Dara Resnik—a Fresh Starts Expert—shares her personal wisdom and practical tools to help you rebuild after divorce. From journaling to therapy to creative outlets, these five tips will give you actionable ways to reclaim your narrative and start fresh.
Learn more about Dara Resnik on her Fresh Starts Profile and hear the three things she learned from her divorce on the Divorce Happens podcast.
1. Start Journaling
Buy a journal and make writing in it a daily practice. Even if all you can manage is scribbling the same word over and over, eventually your truth will come out. Journaling is a powerful way to reconnect with yourself and put words to experiences you’ve been holding inside.
2. Work with a Therapist
After divorce, you may feel upside down with no words for what just happened. A therapist can help you identify and label emotions—especially if your marriage silenced or invalidated your feelings. Having someone reflect your truth back to you is essential in healing.
3. Join a Divorce Support Group
Divorce chat groups exist everywhere: Reddit, TalkAboutMarriage, Facebook. Finding people who “get it” helps you feel less isolated and more empowered to process your story. Dara found support in a group specifically for female writers divorcing narcissists.
4. Explore Creative Expression
Art, poetry, screenwriting—whatever feels natural to you—can become a lifeline in rediscovering your voice. Whether it’s an online poetry course, an art class at your local community center, or writing your own screenplay, creative outlets provide both healing and joy.
5. Share Your Story Safely
As you piece together your narrative, practice sharing it with close, trusted friends. Humans are storytellers. After being gaslit or silenced, telling your story helps you take back power. Just make sure your audience is supportive, compassionate, and safe.
Final Thoughts
Finding your voice after divorce isn’t instant—it’s a practice. With journaling, therapy, supportive communities, creativity, and trusted friends, you can slowly build a new narrative that reflects your resilience and strength. Divorce may feel like an ending, but it’s also the beginning of rediscovering who you are.
