Fresh Reads: Money Together by Heather and Doug Boneparth

The first time money breaks something you love, it doesn’t sound like coins; it sounds like silence. In this intimate Book Talk, we sit with Heather and Douglas Boneparth—partners in marriage, parenting, and work—who wrote Money Together because they lived the gap between what couples say about money and what they can’t bear to say out loud. The episode opens where most advice books don’t: inside the messy, human moments—doors closing, calendars clashing, one person carrying the weight of “contribution” without a paycheck to show for it.

Heather, a recovering corporate attorney turned money writer, and Douglas, a financial advisor and resident finance meme-lord, built their book as a series of love stories about money. Through real couples’ narratives and their own, they show how cultural scripts, childhood histories, and unequal caregiving shape what we spend, save, hide, or fear. The chapters on “Beginnings” and “Contributions” ask harder questions than “What’s your budget?”—they ask who taught you what “providing” means, whose time gets valued, and what counts as care.

Money Together matters because it replaces lectures with language, and shame with doable conversation starters. It’s a book for anyone craving equity at home and intimacy that can survive a bank statement—an invitation to stop performing the relationship and start living it. If you’re in a season of transition—new baby, job loss, divorce contemplation, or the slow realization that something has to change—this conversation offers a gentle push and practical prompts to open the door, sit down, and begin again.

Learn more about Money Together and buy the book: https://domoneytogether.com/

Follow Heather and Doug’s Substack: https://www.readthejointaccount.com/