Nobody Talks About Divorce During Pregnancy. Dr. Gertrude Lyons Just Changed That.
Nobody tells you that pregnancy can be the moment everything becomes clear. Not the nursery colors or the baby name — but something far bigger, far more quietly devastating: the realization that the relationship you're in is not the one you want to raise a child inside of. In this profound episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Dr. Gertrude Lyons — author, life coach, podcast host, retreat facilitator, and the powerhouse behind the book Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust — to explore one of the most taboo intersections in modern womanhood: divorce during pregnancy or in the postpartum period. Dr. Lyons has worked with women at every stage of this threshold and brings both clinical depth and soulful clarity to a conversation that has the potential to crack your heart open and set it free at the same time.
What makes this episode so extraordinary is the reframe Dr. Lyons offers around what she calls "the double threshold" — the understanding that when you become a mother, you don't just birth a child. You birth a new version of yourself. Add divorce to that equation, and yes, the weight is immense. But Dr. Lyons makes a radical and deeply compassionate case: this is actually the ripest moment for transformation. When we are raw, open, hormonally and emotionally stripped to our foundations, we are also the most available we will ever be to do the real work of becoming. She speaks directly to the thousands of years of patriarchal wiring that makes a pregnant woman leaving her partner feel shocking — when in reality, Dr. Lyons argues, the more evolved response is: thank god she figured that out now. Let's rally behind her. Her framework, the "PACT" — Patience, Affirmation, Compassion, and Trust — offers something every woman navigating divorce, single motherhood, or major life transition can carry with her like a compass.
Dr. Lyons also introduces one of the most quietly revolutionary ideas in Rewrite the Mother Code: that we are always rewriting our mother code. Whether you are navigating postpartum divorce, newly separated, rebuilding as a single mom, or simply stepping into a new chapter of yourself, the invitation is the same — go inside, get clear on what you value and what you desire, and let that be your rudder. Olivia shares her own emotional aha moment: that becoming a single mother required her to rewrite her mother code entirely, a realization she describes as "spiritual." If you have ever wondered whether you are allowed to want something different for yourself during one of the most vulnerable seasons of your life — this episode is the answer. You are not falling apart. You are in the middle of becoming. And Dr. Gertrude Lyons is here to hold you through it.
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