Divorce has a way of raising the questions we've spent years avoiding. Why do I keep ending up here? What's wrong with me? In Come Back to Love: A Path to Healing, psychotherapist and Love & Intimacy Coach Robyn Vogel, MA, offers a different starting point: the heartbreak you're carrying might be where something better begins.
About the book
When Robyn was ten, she lost her mother without warning. That loss shaped her self-worth, her ability to trust and her relationships for decades afterwards. Come Back to Love weaves her own story together with the Four Gates, the trauma-informed process she has used to help hundreds of clients stop repeating old pain and start receiving healthy love.
It's part memoir, part practical guide. Inside, readers will:
- Identify the hidden wounds that keep drawing them to the wrong people, or to no one at all
- Work through each of the Four Gates with hands-on exercises
- Learn to trust their body and open up to intimacy that feels safe and lasting
If you're in the thick of it
Robyn sees the middle of a divorce as a real opportunity to look honestly at what happened and how not to repeat it. You don't need to read the book cover to cover to get something from it. It's designed to be picked up as time allows.
If you have a few minutes tonight, she suggests opening to Gate 2: Beyond the Mind. It includes a quick tool for shifting out of self-pity or frustration and into a calmer, more settled nervous system. When you're ready to look further ahead, the chapter on receiving offers practical and energetic tools for inviting in love that's genuinely healthy for you.
About the author
Robyn Vogel, MA, is a trauma-informed psychotherapist, IFS-trained clinician, couples specialist, certified Love & Intimacy Coach and High Conflict Divorce Coach. She is the creator of the Come Back to Love® approach, leads retreats, trains facilitators and hosts the weekly radio show and podcast Come Back to Love. Learn more about her work at Come Back to Love.
Where to find it
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