Will Divorce Ruin My Kids? How to Rewrite the Stories You Tell Yourself with Divorce Coach Lyerly Spongberg (Copy)
The papers are signed, and you still don't feel like yourself. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell talks with divorce recovery coach Leah Marie Mazur about the part of divorce that starts after the legal process ends. It's for anyone who is newly divorced, or close to it, and wondering what comes next.
About our guest
Leah Marie Mazur is a divorce recovery coach, a certified life coach, and the founder of Mindfully Ready. She is a mom who has been through three divorces herself, and over the last six and a half years she has coached hundreds of women through theirs. Leah is a Fresh Starts expert, and you can find her on her Fresh Starts Registry expert profile, on Instagram, and on TikTok.
Key takeaways
- Divorce recovery is about you. Your attorney, mediator, and financial professionals help with the process. A divorce recovery coach helps with what's left once it's over: guilt, shame, confidence, and identity.
- Peace can't depend on your ex changing. Even with a co-parent who isn't collaborative, you can find calm within yourself.
- Find small pockets in your day to ground yourself. A short walk, your feet in the grass, a cup of tea, or a few deep breaths all count.
- "The power is in the pause." You don't have to read a message right away, and you don't have to respond right away.
- One minute of doing nothing can help more than you'd expect.
- You can't control anything but yourself. Self-trust means knowing you can handle whatever comes next.
- The tools you learn now are tools your kids can use for the rest of their lives.
- If you just signed your papers, you don't have to figure out your whole life. Take one next step.
Resources mentioned
- Leah's free private Facebook support group
- Leah's free training and other free resources at Mindfully Ready, including her divorce recovery kit
- Fresh Starts Registry offers free consults, a vetted expert network, and free guides.
Where to listen and subscribe
Listen to the full episode of Divorce Happens on Spotify. You can also follow Divorce Happens on Instagram and join The Divorce Happens Community on Substack.
Thank you to Leah for being part of our community, and thank you for listening.
This episode is for general information and isn't a substitute for professional mental health or legal support.