Most of us are taught to see divorce as a failure, or at best an ending to get through as quickly as possible. In Love Your Divorce: Your Guide to a Holistic Happier Ever After, family law attorney and Fresh Starts expert Sharon Oberst DeFala offers another way to look at it: as a major life transition, and one that can become the foundation for a healthier, more intentional future.
About the book
Sharon has spent more than three decades working with families as an attorney and mediator. She is also a holistic divorce expert and Reiki Master, and Love Your Divorce brings both sides of that experience together. Practical legal insight sits alongside a compassionate, whole-person approach, so readers can move through divorce with more clarity, confidence and care.
It's written for anyone considering divorce, going through one, or starting life on the other side, who wants a more thoughtful path forward. The book was released on October 13 and is available in print and ebook.
If you're in the thick of it
When everything feels urgent, Sharon's first suggestion is to slow the process down enough to make clearer decisions.
One of the biggest shifts in the book is moving away from "How do I win?" and towards a different question: "What kind of life am I trying to build after this?" That question can change how you walk into a difficult conversation, a mediation session, or the one decision you have to make this week.
Sharon also encourages readers to treat divorce as a whole-life transition, not just a legal case. That means paying attention to your peace and your long-term wellbeing while you go through it, not only to the outcome on paper. You have more choices than it may feel like right now, both in how you navigate the process and in what you build next.
About the author
Sharon Oberst DeFala is a family law attorney, mediator, holistic divorce expert and Reiki Master with more than 30 years of experience. She is the founder of Oberst DeFala Law, PC in Connecticut. You can read more about her work on her Fresh Starts expert profile.
Where to find it
Get Love Your Divorce: Your Guide to a Holistic Happier Ever After on Amazon. It's also available wherever books are sold.
If you'd like help finding support for your own divorce, you can book a free resource consult or browse the Fresh Starts Expert Guide.
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