Most divorce advice assumes two reasonable adults who both want to reach an agreement. Jessica Knight, a Fresh Starts Expert and divorce coach, made her podcast for the people that advice keeps failing.
About the show
You Are Not Crazy is about emotional abuse and coercive control, including what happens when that behavior follows someone through divorce and custody. Jessica alternates between solo episodes and conversations with guests who work in the field.
She named the show after the first thing she needed someone to say to her, before anyone handed her a framework. Each episode takes one confusing behavior and explains how it works: a text that always arrives on a Saturday, say, or an apology that never changes anything. Many listeners are still in the relationship. Many others are co-parenting with someone who never stopped trying to control them.
Where to start
If you're in the middle of a custody case right now, Jessica would hand you "When Co-Parenting Becomes Coercive Control."
It's for the parent who keeps doing everything right and still gets cast as the problem. Jessica walks through counter-parenting and the forced engagement loops that keep you answering message after message. She also shares what staying regulated looked like in her own situation. A lot of parents in custody disputes have been told they simply have a difficult co-parent. This episode gives them a more accurate name for what they're dealing with.
Who it's for
Jessica's listeners are usually trying to explain behavior that sounds minor when they describe it out loud and has been wearing them down for years. If you've started to doubt your own read of what's happening, this show is a good place to hear it described plainly, by someone who has been there.
Where to listen
You Are Not Crazy is on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and YouTube, and every episode is on the show's website.
About Jessica
Jessica Knight is a divorce coach and the founder of High Conflict Divorce Coaching. She works with clients going through divorces that aren't "normal" because the marriage wasn't either, helping them build an action plan, document what's happening and communicate in a way that protects them and their children. She's a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach and a Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach, with further training in coercive control and custody cases. She works with clients in all 50 states and internationally. You can also find her on Instagram and Facebook.
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This podcast and article are for general information and support. They aren't legal, medical or mental health advice, and they aren't a substitute for working with a qualified professional on your situation. If you're in immediate danger, call 911. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788.
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